Currently, we do not have conclusive evidence regarding the
likelihood that people who have FASD will have problematic substance use
issues. However, the literature does
suggest that a disproportionate number of people with FASD will have
substance use problems (Streissguth, Barr, Kogan, & Bookstein 1996).
There is also a high likelihood that women with FASD, like
all women, will be sexually active, and at some point may become pregnant.
Given the possible reality of substance use for women with FASD, in conjunction
with likely sexual activity, there is a strong risk that women with FASD may
use alcohol or drugs while pregnant.
Thus, from the perspective of FASD prevention, women with
FASD need to be viewed as a group warranting particular attention. As well as being at high risk of having problem substance
use, practice wisdom tells us that
women with FASD who have substance use problems do not do well in traditional
substance use treatment programs (AA, NA, etc.): they are “very
challenging” to work with and have “poorer outcomes.” (Solution bottom #2)
I agree with the last statement the most. It’s because
programming for all substance abuse sends women and men to Alcoholics
Anonymous. The government, health agencies and help groups and every client,
would benefit from reading this:
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AA is scary.
Clients are obligated to do all ten
steps in “The Big Book,” follow the advice of numerous slogans and learn the AA
jargon. If the client admits he or she does not believe in God it become a problem because belief
in God is essential. It’s injected into 5 of the 12-steps of the book that will
become your new bible. Someone will tell you a candle will do for your higher
power, or whatever – maybe the North Star. And members do that.
When the group sees a problem in a client they band up on
him or her (in the zestiest way pro-AA people can) to save you. The group or an
individual will get you into contact with a sponsor (your other brain -
to think for YOU).
It’s part of the program you see and if you don’t follow
the “AA way” you are in “denial” and doomed to “relapse,”
both symptoms of the disease you now have. Keep up your skeptical attitude and
you are in trouble. People have been asked to leave groups if they don’t
conform. And if a whole meeting group strays from the AA framework, that whole
meeting place could be removed by headquarters from all lists of meetings
anywhere.
What the client may begin to realize is that he or she is
participating in a program that’s not working.Well, it’s no surprise. Group
members everywhere are completely unaware that 95% will not make it through the
1st year, including those who attend AA (right from AA Headquarters
in New York). Therefore they don’t speak about that scary truth. Who can quit with these statistics, if they were known? A newcomer, while putting in the honest effort, will see faces dissapearing one by one, being replaced by new faces. Yet in the Big Book, Bill solemnly declares, "Rarely have we seen a person fail." That is an outright lie. How can the logical brain accept this?
To keep you there, AA uses the disease concept whereby the
client is “SICK” and has a life-long illness that is progressive, incurable and
will keep getting worse until you die – even if you keep attending meetings –
which you have to because it is the only program that works. (Hmmm, that’s
not true.) Symptoms of this sicknes, as above, are “relapse” and “denial.”
Flipping the coin over from the Disease Model to the
Structural Model of, the statistic reveals that people who used any
drug, or alcohol, that quit on their own, is also 5% of the drugging
population. Interesting. That is the same number of people who get through a
year of AA without “slipping.” So I surmise that the people who are successful
with AA for at least a year, would have quit on their own anyway.
People do quit on their own. We’ve heard of it and can all
probably remember a self-quitter somewhere in our life (tobacco, drugs,
gambling, etc.).
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Looking at the health system in Canada, the very people who
send clients to AA don’t realize what they are doing. Few know that 5% statistic. You see, they have no
right to say it works until they themselves become addicted and attend meetings
for the year. Oh, they’ll say they are very happy about attending AA. I know – I
was there and for me talking about beer
drinking and laughing or crying about it became a mental torture for some (you should see the stress and discomfort on some), but
still had me telling people that AA saved me. I lied to people about
that, while I knew I was doomed to fail. I'm sure I'm not the first one.
This is one reason why pregnant women cannot be sent
to AA by any court order or to be coherced by any councelor to attend.
Especially women with FASD or ARND. It is better to go with Rational Recovery.
If you have never heard of this, you will down in blue.
First, self-quitting, a new-age
concept, forces one to be more realistic and conclude that it is actually
easier to quit with nobody’s help than it is to quit with the help of too many
doctors, if you know what I mean. There will be no denial. No relapse. No
ambivalence (should I or shouldn’t I). No sponsor (second brain), no drinks
after meetings, no imaginary God or disease, etc. Sounds so scary but the fear will dissipate
on a personal journey with two great tools. Most anyone can do this. How? Just
read these two books:
Get the book from Jack Trimpey:
“Rational Recovery – The New Cure for Substance Addiction”: ISBN-13:
978-0-671-52858-4 You can quit with this. This is called the “structural
model of addiction” (as opposed to the disease model of AA) and shows why you
had problems quitting before and why you can quit this time. "There's nothing wrong with you."
Also, get the book teaching you “rational emotive
behavioural therapy” (REBT) by
Albert E. Ellis
Ph.D.(Rest his soul), “Anger – How To Live With And Without It”
because quitting can evoke primary emotions that usually turn into the seconday
emotion of “anger” if the primary emotions are not resolved. For example:
Frustration unresolved guarentees that anger is coming but you won't necessarily feel the transition. You will, with no doubt, have this problem, maybe even many times daily with different events.
Remember that thoughts evoke emotions about events and generate all feelings,
some negative, like self-downing, frustration, blaming, depression, etc, are
all hard to deal with. Dr. Ellis had made these manageable or, for some, perfectly
fixable if you really practice
his ABC’s.
ISBN
0-8065-2426-X
So if you take it upon yourself to heed the advice of both
of these books. 2 books – no meetings.
Requires only personal responsibility. Not God’s Hand. Keep in mind, you still
have to have a desire to quit. Rational Recovery can do this with you and
you’ll have finished your self-training in a matter of weeks or less and feel good about
quitting. You will find out about the abstinence commitment effect.
If you have a concept problem in either book, I can help but first try hard to get it yourself. Email me at: fafasd@gmx.com. I have been trained in both AVRT and REBT, as above.
I’m not sorry if I seem harsh but addictions are serious
business and tough works in the business of quitting. Be one of the 5% who
quits alone. People do it every day somewhere. Use God for other good purposes.
I’ll be honest. I quit for 6 years before I had MY first alcohol slip. I
definitely thank Rational Recovery (RR). AA was killing me. AVRT says, "Be who you are. Solve your problems keeping them separate from your abstinence goal." They are separate; unrelated. If you wish to be the ass in the family, don't blame the booze or drugs or people. Sober people deal with all kinds of bad family issues and they don't go running to the bottle and become alcoholics.
Informed consent: I'm speaking to adults to keep 2 choices in mind. I am not telling you what to
do. If you really want AA, that is your perogative. Or try the new cure (that I have personally endorsed). Keep in mind the choice you
now have and, in case you didn’t know, you do have the legal right in Canada to
choose your own recovery method as long as it is legit. AVRT is legitimate. In the USA, (California+), AVRT groups are popping up everywhere. What shouldn't be popping up everywhere are more drunks.